The one thing you hate about parents...

ha, the OP said has the same situation in my life. Currently I am trying so hard to find money. I wanna movefar away from my parents and live with my own way. I mean hello I am old enough to decide this thing is right or wrong. And I swear they will see that I can do on my own and live successfully with my own goal.

 

@avenari I am sorry about your mother I hope she will be better soon...

 

Thanks Genesis...

 

I love them .. yead :d

 

Good for you! you don't hate you're parents...

 

When I was younger, they'd always try to boss me around!

 

- My parents are strict.
- Doesn't give me my privacy.
- My girlfriend MUST be Asian and Christian.
- No texting girls unless they know them.
- Compares me to successful people.

 

Such problems are many. When I was 16 my parents did the same thing. But now I'll decide where and with whom I walk.

 

Right now I understand them what they do to me it's because they loved me so much...

 

Absolutely nothing now that I no longer live under their roof.

 

Umm your so lucky that you are now no longer live with your parents because you can do what ever you want...

 

I've regulations only if i'm doing something wrong...that means if I'm not studying at the time of exams and all. But i'm free to roam around with anyone without any curfew...

 

Dude... you're 25. I would understand if you were 15, but to have your parents tell you what to do when you're 25???????

Since your location is "United States", I assume you live in the USA. Let me give you a little piece of information from American law (it's also the same in many other countries): When you are over 18, you are considered an adult.
Since you are 25 you are old enough to do things like: own a business, become a commercial airplane pilot, obtain a concealed carry firearms permit, buy real estate, sign a contract, etc, etc, etc, etc. All of these things demand a lot more maturity and responsibility than going out and meeting people at a bar.

Since, by posting this thread you are obviously unhappy with your situation, there is only one logical solution: LEAVE HOME AND GET A PLACE OF YOUR OWN NOW!

You are on an online business forum. Owning an online business requires making your OWN decisions, rather than obeying orders barked at you by others.

I don't know if you make enough money from your online activities to move out on your own right away, so if you don't either: find a way to boost your online income or find a job that will supplement that income. Even a low-level call center or food service job will earn you enough money to live on your own (assuming you don't eat at 5 start restaurants every day or want to drive a Lamborghini and live in Monaco).

And please don't use the excuse of "there are no jobs or apartments in my area." You live in the UNITED STATES, not a 3rd world country. There are plenty of places to discover in the USA and you can get a one room apartment in a decent neighborhood for around $500 in many cities. Jobs and income opportunities, both online and offline are THERE. If you want to lower costs even more, rent a room at someone Else's house.

Furthermore, your parents actions are a direct violation of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, which state that you have the right to 1) travel freely (this includes visiting the places that YOU want in your area) 2) peacefully associate with other people (this includes talking to guys/girls you meet at a bar).

If they respect you as an adult, they will have no problem with you living your own life, which includes leaving home. Whatever the practices in your home country are, this is irrelevant if you are in the USA. Parents controlling every aspect of a 25 year old's life is not normal in the USA. If your parents do not accept this, why don't they simply renounce their American citizenship or green card and board a plane back to their home country??

If they try to stop you from leaving home or threaten you with violence if you do so, simply call the police on them. Problem solved.

All the advice mentioned before applies to anyone here in a similar situation and not only the OP. As long as you are over the age of majority in your country you are free to do whatever you wish in your life. Grow some balls and make your own decisions. Do it NOW.

Life is too short to put artificial restrictions on yourself. DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO AND NOT WHAT OTHERS IMPOSE ON YOU.

I will leave you with this quote: "It is better to die on your feet than live on your knees." - Che Guevara

 

This post has real good points.. as an adult you are responsible to your own decisions. It might also be that he lives in USA but he has different nationality or origin that's why his parents act like that.

 

Good point. If he thinks his rights are being violated then he can move out.

 

I miss them terribly and would do anything to be closer to them. Now that I am older and a mother myself, I now know and appreciate the things they said and did as parents while I was growing up / living under their roof.


As far as your situation goes, it sounds like you're living under your parents thumb?
You're 25, you're a grown man, GET OUT from underneath them or you're going to end up resenting them for having SO MUCH control over YOUR life.

 

ummpp you have a point but my parents stop me I want to be independent but they stop me...

 

Thank you. As for this being a "cultural" issue, here goes:
Sure, his parents are free to believe whatever they want to. However their freedom ends when his starts.
Here are some examples to clarify a bit more:
If you're a vegetarian, you have the right not to eat meat. However you DO NOT have the right to forbid others (including your son) from doing so.
You have the right to support whatever political candidate you want to. However you DO NOT have the right to tell others (including your son) who they should vote for.
If your "culture" requires you to wear an orange traffic cone on your head at all times, fine. However, you DO NOT have the right to impose that on others (including your son).

Respecting the rights and freedoms of others is a requirement of living in a free country such as the USA. I welcome and respect people of all cultures and national origins. However, if for anyone respecting the freedom of others (including your son, daughter, brother, sister, etc, etc.) is just too much for you them to handle, they DO NOT belong here and the USA will be better off without them.

Thanks. It was basically the main element of my post.

Exactly! Being bitter and angry is NOT a good thing. Life is too short to harbor such feelings. You live in a free country. No one can infringe on your rights to enjoy YOUR life as YOU see fit.

Respecting and appreciating your parents is always good. HOWEVER, respect goes both ways. Respect does NOT mean blind obedience or total submission to the will of others. This includes people who are older or "superior" to you: parents, boss, teacher, etc. If they want respect, then given the fact that you are an adult, they MUST respect your rights as well. Period, no if's and but's.

Ohh boy... Make a plan to move out. AND DO IT!!

How will they "stop" you? Legally, they are not allowed to do so.

Get your own place (see my advice in my previous post above for details on this). Pack your bags, move out.

If you think they will fly in a fit of rage, then you have 3 options here, as I remind you: YOU LIVE IN A FREE COUNTRY:

1. Call the police. If they threaten, harass, or prevent you from leaving in any way, this is illegal. The cops will be sure to remind them of this.

-or-

2. Go home with your bags ready and bring a few friends with you (make sure you choose people who are brave and don't take crap from no one). Pack up your stuff and have your friends act as "security" for you. For some fun and added dramatic effect, have them dress up like Secret Service agents (suit, dark sunglasses, etc.) Then bring your friends to the bar and buy them a beer to thank them.

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3. If you want to be even more badass, get one of these (should be legal in most states, relatively inexpensive, plus easy to train on how to use it).



Simply showing this fine piece of arguably the best weapon in history will do a great job to dissuade anyone standing in your way that's keeping your from leaving.

 

Thanks dude for the advice as soon as possible I will lived with my own life...

 

I cant really say i hate anything about my parents but sometimes they can go overboard.