Love marriage has more divorce cases?

Do you think love marriage has more divorce cases then to arrange marriage?

G!

 

Yes, i agree with you.

Love marriage has more divorce cases instead of arrange marriage.
Arrange marriage better then love marriage.

 

What's the reason behind that?

 

Sorry, do not understand the question.

 

Yes, Most divorce cases related love marriage...
But why, i don't know..

 

sad but true! One reason could be, differences in behavior between before marriage and after marriage.

 

I think divorce can be in both cases if yours understanding is not good!!

 

I think both of them same. Love marriage depends on economycal status. If status dicraese day by day, marriage goes to divorce.

 

Divorce rates are lower in arranged marriages than love marriages. The reason is that any man or woman that allows their parents to pick and choose their husband/wife is so under their parents heel, that they dare not even contemplate the idea of divorce for fear of offending their parents.
There are reasons for this, fear of retribution from both families, being disinherited and social ostracism.

In some cases the parents have picked wisely and the marriage actually works because the couple have learnt to love each other. Other times it is a disaster and both are miserable. But then again the same could be said for marriages based on love. Isn't it all at the end of the day a 50-50% proposition? Isn't any type of marriage a non gauranteed gamble?

 

Also it is possible, in the case of arrange marriage they have back of the mind that their parents must have done wise thing, and done is after giving lots of thinking and calculations. And parents most of the time things do in the favor of their children.

I think logic may be working behind it.

G!

 

Yes I totally agree with you.

 

Love marriages are often based on passion and romance. But these are not constant and are fleeting at best. What happens when aging occurs, will the passion remain as is? A marriage based on compatability seems more logical to me.
A prearranged marriage where the 4 parents on both sides hand pick for their children, has a lot more thought put into it.
If the children of the parents have complete trust in their parents then an arranged marriage makes sense, especially if one of the children can improve their social status.

It's an age old custom going back thousands of years in certain societies, and I for one have nothing against this institution if it works for them. Who am I to question it?

 

Few years back about 20/25 or more, IMO In India majority of the marriages were arranged. I think it was due to respect and confidence for their parents. Experience and maturity of parents would be a major part of the successful marriage of their children was a important factor.

G!

 

Yes this institution is indeed dying out as people feel that they need to assert their independance. In the end the only thing that really works is two people agreeing to commit to a life together, irregardless of how they came together.

 

it doesnt make a difference, a successful marriage is built on understanding and compromise and trust when these elements fail then so does the marriage whether its love or arranged

 

Well said, I agree with you the bottom line is understanding, compromises and trust elements.

Your post is small & sweet and having big message and solutions, which everyone should keep in mind

G!

 

Are you trying to say that *some* of us are long winded?

 

Not of course.

I like to read your posts in particular.

G!

 

According to Medical Science, Love is nothing just like a bio-chemical game. And It has also been proved that The quantity of your craziness in the starting point=Boring-ness OR negligence after 1-2 years of stay with each other. So You are getting my point craziness is many many time high than in case of arrange marriage.
These things I got from one medical professor of Kolkata PG, But I have find that this not only in case of marriage, but this is happening in all the cases: for ex: your child is so so crazy for doing B.Tech after his 10+2 and after one year he becomes bored with his this course but a student is crazy but not so so as your child is completing his degree easily.

 

I don't think so . If good understanding/believe present between a love couple then divorce are not gonna occurred. But it is true that , now days there is a lot lack of understanding in Love.