You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with

Yes, mostly creepy.

That quote is just another way of saying "You are a product of who you hangout with."

 

Yes. It makes me think of startup entrepreneurs, and their eagerness to associate themselves with the "right people" to progress their careers.

 

Are sure that he had your husbands contact and was able to be in touch with him over the last 10 years ? I have lost contacts solely because of losing my mobile phone. I think it's your husband who knows exactly what type of character he falls in to. Also there are people who make friends for a cause.. It could be business, money, power etc but these types of friends cant be classified as true friends.

 

It's somewhat true, but mostly bull. I've spent a lot of time with various people throughout my life, not for a second I am an average of any one of those groups of people. There are always idiots that take everything literally. Anyone who says: "Oh, now I am going to surround myself with people better than I so that I'd become better" is a needy idiot.

 

FYP

 

This was in the 90s where internet was luxury in our country. I actually tried to look up in the telephone directory but for that.. the person needs to be the owner of the land line. Anyway even if i had googled it wouldnt have been easier as the online presence was limited before the facebook era.. ;-)

Edit: If your husband is in Google then no issues finding him i guess.

 

I sorta agree. I grew up around people drinking heavily. And although I do not mind an occasional drink, I am not inclined to booze day in and day out like they did. I spent over 8 years with one religious group. You'd think I should've become like one of them. I ended up disliking quite a few of their beliefs and religious inclinations. And I can probably bring up a few other examples. I remember spending 2 years in the Army with the folks who were literal idiots. It didn't change me. The moment I left the service I left everything behind and forgot all about it. Maybe it's just me. I am not easily impacted by anyone. Been like that since I was kid. Very independent in my ways and thinking.

 

Too some extent, I just think it's important to have a variety of friends.

 

Unless this premise somehow incorporates one's history of associations over the years, it is pretty silly. What I mean is that I surely have incorporated things from my five closest contacts over the many years and the things that I have incorporated with one group do not necessarily go away when a new group takes its place for whatever reason. If anything, it becomes a cumulative process.

And, I think that the person who contacted your husband must be pretty desperate to change his life to have reached out like that. Either that, or he is trying to sell your husband life insurance or Amway.

 

Good one @jrbiz . I really never cared for Zig Ziglar, John Maxwell, Joel Osteen, Jim Rohn and other motivational speakers. In my late twenties I read a book or two by each one of those people. What's the point? They pump you up with all kinds of "higher calling" ideas, but the thing is life doesn't consist of some hypothetical inspirational moments. It consists of thousands of mundane interactions that, most of the time, have nothing to do with what those authors have to say. It's all about money. Millions are duped into believing that what they are/were saying is true. So they are quick to pull their wallets out. But if you take all the crap out of the way there will be very little value left to pay attention to.

 

Thanks, @qwikad.com. The only thing the so-called experts that you mentioned are good at selling is themselves to dupes. Unfortunately, the pool of dupes grows each and every day so they continue to rake in the money from the next unsuspecting crowd of newbie dupes. It is like PT Barnum once said: "There is a sucker born every day."

 

it all depends on what you believe. Mostly we are advised to only hang out with people that will make us better. People of our social class, people with good family background and all kind of good people that you can ever think of. But this cannot be fair, who will hang out with the rest, who will make them better, who will influence them better, who will change their attitude and show them love. even if people say that I am an average of the people I hang out with, I dont care. What I care about most is making them better, giving them hope and encouraging them in life. If there was no one better to hang out with me, then I would not be where I am today. Lets not be selfish, Don't think that you are better than the rest. Only look down on them if you are helping them out. Thank you