How Do I Stay Focused When Things Are Bad?

Hello Everyone,

I recently found a girl who I liked a lot, we shared many great times together but she has left me recently (Tuesday) and it's been on my mind ever since, it's stopped me from working to my full potential. She never told me why she was leaving, one moment she said I was perfect to her then the next day she's gone, it may have been her ex that she went back to. But anyways, any ideas on how to clear my head so I can focus on what I do best? I'm done with relationships, I've been in a few and I've never broken up with them so I'm tired of being the one who gets hurt.

Thanks,
Scott

 

Stop being nice! Girls don't like nice guys! I mean that!

 

Don't worry Scott! If she really loves you she will make her appearance shortly again. If not consider it was a sweet dream. Understanding a female is Universal problem!

 

Yes, They really do not know how to choose a nice guy? I suspect you too had experienced similar incident.

 

There's really not much you can do about it now, except learn from it and move on.

 

I totally agree "move on" it was not meant to be--i'm sure you learned alot from that relationship experience--do your grieving process and start looking for Mrs.Right....Huggggggsssssss and more Hugggggssssssss!!!!!!

 

that is good u found a girl just right fo u

 

If she only left you on Tuesday, you haven't given yourself much time to get over it. Throwing yourself into your work and pushing her out of your mind is one of the best things you can do. Don't think of your sadness making it hard to concentrate - concentrate harder to forget the pain.

 

Scott, in love how much you love the other person never matters, what matters is, how much she loves you?
If you love a bird, let her fly. If she loves you, she will come back.
and IF she doesnt come back, why should you waste your tears for someone who doesnt love you??


Jesus!! way to serious for me....
Dude you are feeling sad coz your girl left you, I am crying coz my girl doesnt let me go .

 

Get yourself involved in work, and wait for the weekend. Have a blast this weekend, go out with some friends, call some of your very old friends whom you havent met for an year or so, you would've a lot of catching up to do with your old friends, that would probably divert your mind.

 

Be patient ... the girl of your dreams comes in the end. At least mine comed ...

 

PITY! My sympathy to you Webmaster!

 

Forget about the b****.

When it comes to women, you'll feel different about it all within a week, guaranteed. It's a bit of a shit getting dumped but that's life!

If you want my opinion on what the deal was, I believe a few people have already mentioned it -- being nice. If a woman knows she has you by the shorties and you are really nice, you present no challenge and therefore no future. On the other hand, if they believe they can save you / redeem you / change your bad-boy ways then you need to peel them off your feet. Go figure but that's the way they work.

As for this one, forget about it. She's already decided you offer no challenge and therefore any effort at this point is wasted.

There may be women who read this post and object but they all know it's true, as does just about every man who's been around the block a couple of times.

Men get a similar(ish) syndrome when they think they need to be the knight in shining armour racing to the rescue of some damsel in distress.

For future reference, they like a bit of mystery, an aura of the dark side and a slight lack of interest. Makes you a challenge.

 

How to get girls? what is the best move?

 

im sorry about that Scott......

time can heal...who knows you'll get over it in no time.
Maybe she have her own reasons why she left.
If you two are meant to be together, she'll get back to you....
or maybe one day you will meet again and be together....

But what if she's not really for you even if you think she is?
What if someone out there is waiting..the right one for you.....

*hope things will get better for you soon*

*hugs*



man, im so serious

 

This thread makes me sad as i don't have a girlfriend yet.

And the guy ^^ above me even has an avatar with kissings.

 

Well if you look and act like the Pervert Hermit in your avatar then no wonder

Scott, if one minute she said you were perfect then leaves you the next, she's a liar and probably is a coward too for not having the guts to tell the truth in the first place. When asking how to clear your head or move on itll be difficult to find 'straightforward' answers, as its a difficult thing to do as what works for one person wont always work for another. What I can say is what worked for me. I dont know if itll work for you, but here it is: I find that simply getting angry enough at her destroys any feelings I may have had and once the anger subsides Im indifferent, thus im able to carry on with my life.

However, time heals these sorts of wounds best. I know it may suck to go through it now, but youll get through it one way or another.

 

hmmm i just remember my x-girlfriend
ok this are the 10 things that ive done to clear my head...

1. i cry a lot for 2 days hehhe
2. drink a lot of beer with some of really good friends for a 1 week ....
3. dont listen to any kind of stupid love songs
4. make my self BUSY
5. make my self BUSY
6. make my self BUSY
7. make my self BUSY
8. make my self BUSY
9. make my self BUSY
10. dating a hottie ...

 

I've been done with relationships for a long time. When you are trying to break your back building a successful business, fooling around with some stupid girl is only going to waste your time and keep you from more important things.........get her pregnant, and you can kiss your business goodbye.

If you think of you've had a bad week, try being me. I've basically worked for nothing this week.

 

sorry to hear that Scott...

make yourself busy, go out with your friends....i just did that recently and im feeling cool now.