What motivates you?

Revenge and even "justice" is not word that can describe the situation. I really felt sorry after reading above and even my eyes have tears now. It can not be your fault due to a health related issue. In my opinion, I think, your wife was ill. That can change everything. I was talking about 2 healthy persons.
But still revenge to an ill person is wrong. Justice is also wrong. When it comes to health, life is not fair.

 

You know that's right. But, crap happens.

 

I don't have a good life .. I even don't want to live anymore in this fucki.ng islam county. What can I do? Nothing. Live or die. I have only 2 choices. That's life maybe. I don't know. But dying is the end of everything. I know it. It's a last resort.

 

I know the feeling. I came to that thought when she took off. But I realized that my kids will need me and I can win them back if I play with a cool head.

Just gotta keep positive and push through the hard shit.

 

We have different issues. You have a family related narrow issue and, in my opinion the issue depends on the health of your wife.
My issue is a bit complex. I don't want to live.
I don't want to live in an fucking islam country, Turkey.
I can't go and live in a christian country due to the their visa barriers, and I am an atheist not a christian.
What can I do?
Nothing. Because I am not rich. All the developed countries, United states, united kingdom, australia, new zealand, etc. don't like the people like me, even if I am well educated. They need rich persons. They need money nothing else. I don't see anything wrong with that. They are right. They dont need good and educated persons. Should I kill myself? May be.. I have been thinking about it.. I don't want to live.
So, you see, issues are different. Your family issue may be resolved and I hope it will.

 

Wrong. Yes they want rich people, but they also want skilled and educated people as well. What they DON'T want is unskilled migrants. There is enough unskilled people here in Australia without bringing in more. If you want to come and live in Australia you would need to be on a skilled or working visa. If you can get that and manage to get employed here for a long period of time then eventually you can apply for citizenship or permanent residency at least. If you are a doctor or a skilled sportsperson, I can guarantee you that it is only a short matter of time before you become an Australian citizen. But if you have skills and education then it is also VERY possible to come work and eventually live here permanently.

Maybe you can use "getting out of turkey" as a motivation to come and live in a country like Australia? (geez, I hate these alien smilies here on dp, it makes me look like I'm laughing at you which I'm not).

Source: I live in Australia, I should know.

Here is some links that might interest you. Good luck.
https://www.immi.gov.au/skills/skillselect/index.htm
http://www.immi.gov.au/Work/Pages/skilled-occupations-lists/skilled-occupations-lists.aspx

 

Not wrong. I need to have a job offer to apply for a work and settlement visa for New zealand. Australia, Canada, US, UK have similar rules. How can I get a job offer while I stay in a different country? It's almost impossible to get a job offer by applying for job ads on the internet. So I have to visit Australia to seek for a job. But.. tourist visa is also impossible to get if you are not a citizen of developed country. There is only 1 option for me and others like me.. I should have some good amount of cash like 1 or more millions. Thus I can apply for an investor visa. Or, marriage may be another option but it's also impossible in another country and also I should love to marry. Having money, becoming rich is less impossible than marriage. So money is the best motivator for me. Because if I had enough money I could go and live anywhere I wish. They don't care skills, they want money. Again, I don't see anything wrong with that.

 

warm family
true friends
good books

those above things help me a lots to strengthen my mind while it is in difficulty.

 

No, I mean you are wrong when you say that Australia only wants rich people(the part I quoted). That's not true, they want educated and skilled people as well. There are many parts of the economy where they badly need skilled workers (eg medical doctors). You can disagree with me if you like, but I live here and so I know I am right.

My own family migrated to Australia from a 3rd world country many years ago- We had nearly zero money, but my parents had skills and an education. I'm not going to go into specifics, but what we had to endure to get here- there were many many hardships and setbacks, we faced many life or death situations- it would probably make a bestselling book if I was to ever tell it.

I really think you should try to do all you can to come here(or another western country) firstly on a tourist visa(I don't know the specific rules for developed countries) and then seek employment on a skilled visa.

Try to do everything you can, and then if that plan fails you can go back to your original plan of trying to come here as as rich person on a investor visa.

Again, I am not trying to argue with you, I only want to advise you based on my knowledge and experience living here. Whatever you decide is up to you. I wish you the best.

 

You can start by getting off the pity pot, and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Perhaps the problem lies in the fact that you are just weak?

 

What inspires me:

1. My niece, whose father isn't involved in her life.
2. My relationship, and my friendships
3. Music, independent bands who write songs for the lyrics.
4. Frequently being with people on what is often the worst day of their lives, and being able to help them in any way. (I am a med student/paramedic).
5. The rest of my family
6. My dogs (Lucy and Biscuit)
7. Books, mostly fiction.

Wrong. I know plenty of very poor people who have moved from Latin America to Australia and made a life for themselves. It sounds like you're just giving up without really trying. If you want to leave your country, if that is what's stopping you from finding happiness, get off DP and pack your bags. I'm sure there are PLENTY of countries you can go to, even if they're not the US/UK.

 

The life in front of me~

 

Does getting banned motivate you? If so then you should be feeling quite motivated right about now.

 

A vision of an extraordinary life! Larger than myself...

 

hats off to you

 

Mate don't put yourself in negative world . we all know that you are facing bad time or you really had a bad time but you have to motivate yourself not just let yourself keep on falling down . you have your besties and family who wants smile on your face . we know it's hard to face but we all have to face happiness,depression, gloom, misery, pain, sadness, sorrow, unhappiness, woe and dying is not the end of everything there are millions of people who have dreams just to be like you.

 

feeling quite "BANNED"

 

learning of this concept has helped me. 'Learned helplessness' is the view that depression and motivation may result from a perceived absence of control over the outcome of a situation. Those who have been less effective in determining the consequences of their behavior are defined as having acquired learned helplessness.

what to take from this?

make an effort to make changes in your life that give you more control of your environment

 

A beloved SMILE impress and motivate me to fresh my mood.

 

I get you. Although I know everyone's situations are different.... and although mine is similar, I can't tell you I understand... because we can never truly UNDERSTAND eachother's situations if we haven't been in them. I am from South Africa... my country is really expensive, and our unemployment and poverty statistics are REALLY high... the opportunities are really limited, and I feel like I have wasted many years in school to get an education which has almost no value... because our school & education system sucks. Universities are way too expensive. Only the people with rich parents can afford it and they aren't the ones who need it in the first place. I would love to contribute to helping South Africa get to a better place... and it took me many years to feel proud of my country. But my eyes has been opened to its beauty and I know there's a reason why I was born here. But still I would love to experience another country and see what it's like, and seek oportunities... I have always wanted to go to the US, and know just how difficult it is to get in. It is difficult... the requirements are really high, and the visa's limits you to work/study only. If you plan on freelancing or working in the entertainment industry or anything like that... you can't apply for a work visa. I know how frustrating it can be. I've been applying for the US greencard lottery for the past 4 years and haven't been lucky. But hopefully soon hey But it is extremely frustrating... I get you.